I AM OK-YOU ARE OK
I'm OK – You're OK, byThomas Harris ,is a practical guide to Transactional Analysis(TA) as a method for solving problems in life.
· Book helps one to gain
control over self, relationships
and the future, no matter what has
happened in the past.
· The TA theory revolves
around the concept of Parent ,
Adult and Child ego states present
in all human beings.
· Whilst the Parent ego resembles the behavioral
pattern inherited from of one’s parents, the child ego structure depicts
the behaviour seen in any child .
· The adult ego structure is,
however, based on reason and logi , almost like a computer.
· While all the egos are needed in the life of a
person, the stress is on Adult ego structure such that our dealings are more
balanced and effective, as both parental and child ego structures give free
flow to our emotions, at times.
· Based on the predominant
ego structure one is in, one deals with
others and many of the transactions-dealings- will be either crossed or
complementary.
· While crossed transactions
will be dysfunctional, complementary
will be pleasant to carry on like discussions with friends.
· At work place and with public- and even in private, we must endeavour for complementary transactions so that the frictions can be avoided or minimized.
The book also deals with the
Four life positions commonly seen viz.
1.
I'm Not OK, You're OK
2.
I'm Not OK, You're Not OK
3.
I'm OK, You're Not OK
4.
I'm OK, You're OK
Book exhorts people to be in fourth position- I am OK – You are OK as often as possible.
- All the position and powers are rather relative, as we have seen in democracy.
- Hence what is needed is the right awareness and attitude.
- The book helps to
open up one’s awareness of our life position, ego structure and patter of
transactions such that one will be able to take corrective actions wherever
needed.
Highly recommended for
those dealing with people in general and
customers in particular.
Be peaceful.
Vande Mataram.
9 AM
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